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Ep30: To Do List Drama

On episode 30, I am going to talk with you about the value of having a single, full and TRUE To Do list.

Your current To Do list probably isn’t complete and is probably mostly up in your head – and this is stopping you from living your most aligned life and getting what you desire. It is also causing unnecessary worry and anxiety trying to “remember” all the things you need to get done.

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E29: What Would Death Do?

On episode 29, I am going to talk with you about how making a practice of thinking about death everyday can add so much more freedom, depth & expansion to your life.

It’s one of the secrets to living a more free & joyous life.

Death has been one of my greatest teachers and a concept I look to everyday as I also reflect on and celebrate with gratitude the gift of my own life.

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E28: Healing Hurry Sickness

On episode 28, I am going to talk with you about Hurry Sickness, something that can seriously effects your health & quality of life.

I learned about hurry sickness a few years back and realized I had it! Yikes!

Becoming aware of what Hurry Sickness is changed my life for the better and has helped me learn when to harness some of the things I learned from it and how to detach from it as well to come back to the present moment & connection.

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E27: Eliminating Niche Drama in Business & Life

On episode 27, I am going to share with you how to find your niche in business & life without the drama.

Niching is just about making choices about what you want and don’t want in your life.

Niching exists to serve you and to serve your ideal client. It’s really built out of sacred reciprocity and connection.

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Do you want to learn how to turn your painful stories & “failures” into the sweet honey of your life?

Do you have a painful story about your past that you can’t seem to let go of? That hurts your heart and soul to think about?

It’s amazing how much suffering we cause ourselves months, years and even decades after painful event/s because of HOW we are CHOOSING to THINK about what happened.

Yes, it’s HOW you CHOOSE to THINK about the past that is causing you pain right now, not the actual event itself. Because the event is over, right? Meaning…it’s NOT happening right now, is it? NO.

The only thing happening right now is you are THINKING about what happened & CHOOSING to make it mean something NEGATIVE about you. You are typically using your past painful story as evidence that a negative belief you already have about yourself is true

I call these negative beliefs “open wounds” because they can and want to be healed.

“Open wounds” such as “you’re unlovable”, “you’re a mess” or “you’re a failure”…and so on.

Your past painful story you are holding onto is like salt in your “open wounds”.

Buddhist say that any time we suffer misfortune, two arrows fly our way . 🏹 The first arrow is the actual event, which can cause pain in that moment. 

🏹 The second arrow is the suffering we inflict upon ourselves because of what we are making the first arrow mean. The second arrow is the pain you feel today, even though the first arrow happened days, months or years ago.

Sometimes we can even manifest a lot of similar painful events in our life until we face and heal the “open wounds” inside of us.

Think about what your painful past story is trying to tell you? What is the real reason you are upset, what is the “open wound” inside of you that longs to be healed, that longs to be turned into the sweet honey of your life – by offering that pain understanding, self love, kindness, acceptance and grace.

And if the first arrow caused trauma, please make sure to be kind to yourself and get help to clear the trauma with a therapist.

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