Never give up believing in a better world.
On episode 30, I am going to talk with you about the value of having a single, full and TRUE To Do list.
Your current To Do list probably isn’t complete and is probably mostly up in your head – and this is stopping you from living your most aligned life and getting what you desire. It is also causing unnecessary worry and anxiety trying to “remember” all the things you need to get done.
On episode 29, I am going to talk with you about how making a practice of thinking about death everyday can add so much more freedom, depth & expansion to your life.
It’s one of the secrets to living a more free & joyous life.
Death has been one of my greatest teachers and a concept I look to everyday as I also reflect on and celebrate with gratitude the gift of my own life.
On episode 28, I am going to talk with you about Hurry Sickness, something that can seriously effects your health & quality of life.
I learned about hurry sickness a few years back and realized I had it! Yikes!
Becoming aware of what Hurry Sickness is changed my life for the better and has helped me learn when to harness some of the things I learned from it and how to detach from it as well to come back to the present moment & connection.
On episode 27, I am going to share with you how to find your niche in business & life without the drama.
Niching is just about making choices about what you want and don’t want in your life.
Niching exists to serve you and to serve your ideal client. It’s really built out of sacred reciprocity and connection.
I’ve been feeling a lot of sadness & anger over the repetitive violence towards women and minorities.
I’ve tried to understand why some men hurt women, so my daughter might not face the same experience & to raise my 2 boys in a way that they would NEVER hurt a woman.
Some of my findings are below, but first a few statistics:
- 1 in 3 women are subjected to physical or sexual violence.
- 1 in 7 women have been stalked by an intimate partner to the point that they felt they would be harmed or killed.
- 1 in 3 women have experienced sexual harassment at work.
- 1 in 5 women in the United States have experienced sexual assault/rape.
- Young women, low-income women & some minorities are disproportionately victims of domestic violence & rape.
This is the “normal” we women are living in.
From my experience, the men who do these sorts of things are not easily identifiable as “violent” or “criminal”. I’ve personally experienced most of that list above, & the men who did those things to me were, per mainstream culture, “normal”, from “good” families, financially well off, no criminal history, etc. So, what leads them to hurt another person?
Here are some of my findings OR what I call…Why Hurt People, Hurt Other People:
➡️ Men have lots of trauma from the enculturation of “toxic masculinity” & it lives in their bodies & festers into rage, violence. Some men have been taught that “emotions are weak” & use violence, anger & rage as a release. We need to help men learn to feel their emotions without violence.
➡️ Violence for men is glorified on TV, as is degradation of women. This sort of programming gets into men’s (& women’s) subconscious, even if they are consciously, “love women”. My advice – just turn off the TV.
➡️ Most men don’t feel “safe” in our hierarchical, patriarchal culture, & use power & control over others to try & feel “safe”. We need to change this narrative into something inclusive & safe for everyone.
Never give up believing that this violence will end one day. Like the butterfly who gets beaten back by the hurricane, there will be sun at the end of this storm.